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5 Critical Things You Should Observe Before Talking to Inner Child

Having a healthy relationship with your inner child is very important for overall happiness. Today you will learn the five secrets of how to reconnect with him or her.

It's easier to talk to your Inner Child in the forest


How To Connect with Your Inner Child

As you will learn soon, the process of connecting with your inner child may be hard or even painful for a while. However, the reward is bigger than the discomfort at the beginning. Let's look at the obstacles first.

1. Face Your Objections

Connecting with something that is in our minds can be a strange and uncomfortable idea for many people. Why? Because people often may be thinking, “this is crazy,” or “that was years ago, it’s not possible to connect to myself as a child.”

However, the truth is that whatever was a long time ago can still serve you. Think of the skill you learned in your childhood and which you can use now.

Nervousness or possibly being scared to start the connection may result from not knowing what you will find and how you will handle old emotions and wounds. We all avoid pain for every sake and go beyond our comfort zone.

2. Find the Benefits of Reconnection with the Inner Child

You might be thinking it’s better to leave these parts and memories alone because it will only cause more pain and hardship for you.

However, if the youngest part of the personality is unhealthy, you will face with chronic pain anyway. And this pain will last if you heal your inner child.

What is better? Keeping the status quo and feeling constant discomfort, like a toothache or a back pain which becomes stronger during the weather changes?

Or go to the dentist or orthopaedist and have the tooth or back healed? it will be painful, but the relief will be enormous.

Fear Of The Unknown And Pain

You also might be afraid of the unknown and the painful changes. Although they are understandable fears, they are not beneficial or based on them. Your inner child can only cause you “harm” if you leave him or her unchecked and ignored.

It is simply a part of yourself that wants and needs your attention. Yes, he or she may express a lot of anger or sadness at first for being forgotten and unattended for so long.

However, once the inner child knows you are serious about giving him or her love, listening to them and protecting them, old issues can be resolved much faster and offer a lot of joy and love.

What Is the Truth About Reconnecting with Your Inner Child?

Imagine a child who is happy, playful, and loving versus a child who is angry, scared or withdrawn. The laugh and energy of the first one are infectious and life-affirming.

A happy child is also loving, affectionate and expressive. Therefore, when your inner child feels happy, safe, balanced, and loved- you feel happy, safe, balanced and loved.

Although life is still challenging and difficult at times, it is much easier to manage and stay balanced during difficult times when the youngest part of the personality is secure.

Therefore, the process of healing him or her and reconnecting with them is so important.

3. Use These Tips Before Reconnecting With Your Inner Child

You can do the work through a lot of visualization along with other techniques such as writing, drawing and talking.

The more you can really visualize and see your inner child as an actual part of you, the better your connection with it regardless of the technique. I will describe these techniques more thoroughly in my next posts.

Useful Tips Before You Start

You may feel uncomfortable, awkward, or strange at first, but know that this is very normal and perfectly ok. Here are some useful tips:

  • Try not to judge yourself during this process of reconnection.

  • Do not be impatient with your inner child and progress.

  • Make a life-long commitment and connection with yourself.

  • Be careful of the turbulent times in your life (i.e. the stressful ones). Your inner child will require more attention at different times in your life as different stressors and triggers appear.

  • Be careful of the critical issues, that are potentially "resolved". They can reappear at different moments, as well, depending on how balanced you are feeling and how deep an issue is in your psyche.

  • Give your inner child more attention then.

  • Go slowly, listen to what your child says without judgement.

  • Never minimise her emotions about him or her.

Inner child work is the process of contacting, understanding, embracing, and healing your inner child. Your inner child represents your first original self that entered this world; it contains your capacity to experience wonder, joy, innocence, sensitivity and playfulness.

4. Overcome Challenges Of Connecting With Your Inner Child

If your inner child is very angry or self-destructive, set loving boundaries as you try to build your relationship and understand the child’s underlying anger.

Remember that connecting with your inner child, as with a real child, does not mean you allow him or her to act out however they want to. Here are some tips on how to do it effectively:

  • Listen to him or her and acknowledge what they are feeling - extremely important

  • You do not need to agree with or understand your inner child's feelings

  • Give the child all your love, affection, acknowledgement, praise, boundaries and protection that you needed growing up.

  • Act as a healthy parent. If you have no idea who they are, think about someone who you like or admire and emulate them.

5. Meditate to Soothe Your Inner Child

Use meditation as a tool to connect with all parts of yourself. You can heal this part of your personality and transform him/her into a new, healthy one.

Let's Meditate Together

Connect by telepathy during meditation on Saturdays at 8 pm GMT. I will meditate with you and other people so that our joint energy can create miracles. Send your intention to the Universe. Transform your life and the world.

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In A Nutshell

Today I have presented to you how to prepare for reconnecting with your inner child. Overcome objections by finding the benefits of healing your inner child and use the tips on how to do the process of reconnection and how to win the obstacles on the way. My next articles will describe some techniques in detail so stay tuned. With lots of love and light,



Vicky is an experienced holistic writer and coach who inspires, motivates, and encourages everyone to become the best version of themselves - physically, mentally, and spiritually.


The content of Awaken Happy Life is published for educational and informative purposes only. It does not substitute medical or any other professional advice. Please seek professional care if you believe you may have a condition. The author of Awaken Happy Life is not liable for any consequences of applying any piece of advice published on this website by the reader.


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