Love and relationships are often challenging and painful because of karma. Learn how to close it and create a blissful life together.
What Is Karma
"Karma" simply means action, work, or deed. According to the spiritual principle of cause and effect, and the principle of karma, each action of an individual (cause) influences the future of that individual (effect).
Decent intentions and good deeds contribute to good karma and happier rebirths (i.e. next incarnations), while evil ones result in painful (or more challenging) karma. The philosophy of karma is closely associated with the idea of reincarnation in some religions, (e.g. Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, Sikhism and Taoism.
During the present times of transformation, more and more people believe in reincarnation around the globe.
Karma can concern all your life or each of its fields - relationships, career, health and enjoyment. This article will give you some tips on how to handle relationship karma.
Causes Of Unhappy Relationships
the "wrong" person (mismatched),
the "wrong" relationship (affair),
karma from past incarnations,
lack of willingness to work on the relationship,
being unable to face and handle changes within a relationship.
Today I will be writing about karma as this is the basic reason for problems in your relationship and how to close it.
Kinds Of Karma in Unhappy Relationships
We could talk about karmic relationships and twin flames. But lots have been said about it. Nevertheless, all comes two main kinds of karmic relationships:
1. The Karma of Unfulfilled Love
This type of karma is present when you had lost someone in your last incarnation. Suppose that there was a war or rebellion. They were the times when people were living according to given social rules, with one partner for a lifetime.
Suppose that you were living then, and your partner had died because of the war. You felt deserted, and vulnerable (because then men were the breadwinners, and the rest of the family was dependent on his ability to generate wealth). Moreover, if you loved your spouse in your past life, then you missed your beloved.
The Consequences of Unfulfilled Love Karma
And then you died and after some time you returned to the Earth, in a new life. What happens? You still remember that lost person, and his/her features and you are looking for someone who will be the same, the ideal which does not exist.
Loving An Idol
It is frequent that in this case of an unfulfilled love people fall in love with a famous singer or actor, hoping that he/she will fill in the void from the last incarnation. However, when the truth becomes different, a nervous breakdown occurs, such as depression and even suicidal thoughts (or worse, committing suicide).
You can also choose a different life path. The beloved singer or actor will be the only individual that you love in your life. Then no one else will fancy you and the lonely, quiet life becomes the reality. This also often ends up as depression and void.
Unhappy, Cold Relationships
You may also try to create an intimate relationships with real individuals in the real world. However, there will be always something that will make these relationships unworkable. Your partner will have flaws or there will be domestic abuse. Eventually, you break up or seek an affair, which also becomes unsuccessful in the long run.
You may also be with someone, but he or she will be only your friend, without intimacy or in a cold relationship without love, where the fear of being totally lonely or joint commitments (e.g., children and loans) keeps the relationship.
2. The Karma of Rejection
Karma of rejection is also very frequent. At least once in your life, you have been heartbroken and in more serious cases - cheated. Any kind of insult, abuse and violence is also included in this category.
The cases mentioned above induce looking for stability, for someone who will never cheat, dump you or hurt you in any other way. However, everyone has free will and we end relationships because of numerous reasons. Cheating and domestic abuse are only the tips of the iceberg.
No one and nothing is your property and especially in the case of people, sometimes their decisions are not according to your expectations. It is a hard lesson but you can always create and attract a new, better relationship.
How To Close Karma of Relationships
These are not all cases of karma concerning love and relationships. I have only given you two examples, challenging enough to tackle within even more than one lifespan.
Karma of relationships teaches you the following life lessons:
Nothing is constant - except change.
No one is your property.
You need to respect the free will of your partner.
No one is perfect so looking for an ideal will not work
Each person is a teacher.
Your partner shows you the areas to work on, e.g., assertiveness, self-love, self-respect, forgiveness, and self-forgiveness.
Now let's learn how to close karma in relationships.
1. Understand That Each Relationship Is a Life Lesson
And this implies changes (e.g., breakups) if you have done the homework or one person does not want to grow. As I wrote above, relationships can teach you many things, you can develop new skills (e.g., communication, assertiveness) and help you to face your challenges (i.e., Personal issues).
2. Face the Reality
It simply means a brutal analysis of your life and spotting the areas which need work. Sounds mundane but it is the only way. Before thinking of a new relationship, examine and start working on these areas:
Self-esteem. Do you consider yourself as a wonderful, complete being, loved by the Universe? How do you estimate your value in different areas of life (i.e., as a co-worker, mother/father, son/daughter, breadwinner, citizen, employee/businessperson)?
Self-love. How much do you love yourself despite other people's criticism?
Self-care. What about your health - physical (i.e. sleep, fitness, diet, relaxation), mental (positive thinking), emotional (venting any negativity), spiritual (living according to the values of light)? How well do you cope with your inner critic?
Energy investment and management. Can you detach from stings and insults? How do you cope with energetic vampires and other toxic beings? What about fixing the energetic leaks?
Of course, in the meantime create a new relationship by thinking and changing your negative subconscious patterns. You do not need to be perfect in the areas mentioned above. Yet no one will fill in the void of self-love or raise your self-esteem. Plus only you can take care of yourself, no one is here to give you a nappy anymore.
Further reading about life lessons:
3. Open Up to A New Relationship
Never assume that once you have broken up or someone has cheated on you loneliness is the only option for the end of your life. In the case of unfulfilled love, understand that this is a new incarnation and the being who you lost may have different goals in their current life than being with you.
Each incarnation is different and now you also may have new life lessons to learn. Give yourself an opportunity to try these lessons, like a new level of any computer or board game. And give a chance to someone new.
4. Become Used To Being In A Relationship
Apart from having unrealistic expectations because of losing someone in a past life, previous incarnations enrich us with painful experiences. It was like becoming ill and the illness means pain and discomfort.
You might have even died because of a past relationship, e.g., being killed by your lover - directly or ratted and executed.
Now you have a totally new life, an opportunity to learn the life lesson. But you are afraid of the water (i.e. the painful experience) because of being sunk... (e.g. being in a relationship). What can you do? Become used to the water.
You do not need to jump into the ocean or swim across the Amazon. Go into shallow water, start by splashing yourself and then learn to swim gradually.
To apply this analogy in a relationship - practise communication with the members of the opposite sex, just for fun, with no strings attached. Treat meeting new people as a new level of your best game. Work on your fears (see my article about the subconscious mind).
Working on your subconscious mind will help you to identify false beliefs and expectations, especially in the case of karma unfulfilled love. Reprogram your mind for peace, harmony and love.
5. Try A Therapeutic Relationship First
Do not assume that a new relationship has to last forever, ideally until your death. Sometimes people meet to learn to swim, i.e to work on their insecurities together. Then you may continue this relationship as a healthy, fully mature or find someone who will be genuinely your partner.
Focus on what is happening now in the relationship rather than ruminating on past experiences - good or bad - or worrying about the future. Appreciate every day and every moment. Never come back to past mistakes and insults. Address them in order to learn the lesson and avoid the same mistake in the future.
Enjoy love every day. Create the energy of love, and gratitude and share it with your partner. As energy comes back multiplied, do your best to create only a positive experience and a relationship full of love, care and respect. Have the courage to enjoy the Now and the Moment That Will Come.
7. Build A Loving Relationship Together
If you are in a relationship, focus on creating its bedrock. This simply means creating positive experiences and focusing only on good things, being an inspiration and a teacher for each other.
However, pay attention to avoid the energy of deceit. Be sincere with your partner, even if it brings discomfort at times. In the long run, you will collect valuable crops.
Never obtrude your partner. If the relationship is over and he/she wants to leave, stay calm and accept the decision. It also concerns any minor decisions he/she makes while being in a relationship with you, including cheating.
Meditation can help you with solving problems concerning your relationships. Firstly, you can give God all your problems and ask Him to find a solution. Secondly, meditation cleanses your aura and even karma. Thirdly, you can work together with your partner on a relationship to make it happier.
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In A Nutshell
Today you have met two kinds of karma that create unhappy relationships. I have also given you seven tips on closing this karma. Try them and create happiness instead. Good luck. With lots of love and light,
Vicky is an experienced holistic writer and coach that inspires, motivates, and encourages everyone to become the best version of themselves - physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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