Self-forgiveness is very important in spiritual life, setting you free. However, it may be hard. Learn the 10 steps to ease the process.
You might ask me: ‘How to do it? It's so hard.’ And I will tell you: 'It may be hard but using the ten steps below will help you to ease the process.'
Just follow the formula which I will describe below. Some steps of self-forgiveness may be difficult, some easier, but the order is important to succeed. Do not skip to the next step until you master the previous one.
10 Steps How to Self-Forgiveness
Below you will find the ten steps to the self-forgiveness formula. You can also use most of them for forgiving other people in the same way.
Before you start reading take a diary as you will need to write to go through the process effectively.
1. Define Your Clear Morals
You feel guilt or shame for actions done in the past because those actions are not in line with your current morals and values.
By identifying your morals and values, you start to get a clearer picture as to “why” you are hurting over what you have done, or what others did to you. So, take a diary or notebook and define:
What does “good” mean to you?
What does “wrong” mean to you?
Remember that you are the wonder, the divine child of the Universe, God and Mother Earth. Forgiveness is just the next value to be learnt. To tell the truth, there is no "good" or "bad" in the spiritual world because there is no duality in other dimensions.
However, to make things easier for you, answer the questions listed above.
2. Acknowledge That the Past Is Past
You know that the past is done, those things happened, and nothing can be done about it… except learning the lesson and forgiving. Then you open yourself up to more acceptance which can lead to the emotional healing you are all looking for. So again, take a diary and write it down.
Acceptance and understanding are other values learnt by your soul. I will write more about them soon.
THE PAST IS PAST, I’VE LEARNED THE LESSON AND NOW AM READY TO ACCEPT IT AND ABLE TO HEAL THE WOUNDS.
3. Create a “Re-do” To Self-Forgiveness
Never underestimate the power of a “re-do”. Sit down and describe in writing how you would have done things differently if you could go back and do it again. By doing so, you affirm that you not only learned from your past mistakes.
You also learn that if you had the skills, you have now, back then, you would have done things differently. Therefore, because you did not have the skills then, it is time to forgive yourself.
Mistakes happen when your soul is inexperienced on a given spiritual path (e.g., starting the pathway of the old soul); or - it is stubborn and does not want to learn the lesson.
4. Realize You Did the Best You Could At the Time
The way you respond depends on three factors:
the skills you have,
the frame of mind you are in,
how you perceive the situation at that moment.
Maybe you did not have as much objectivity or acted out of survival or protection mode. Maybe you had let stress build up, which put you at a higher risk of responding poorly.
Whatever the factors, cut yourself a break. If you learn from it, it was never in vain.
5. Act According To Your Morals To Forgive
In order to practise self-forgiveness efficiently, the best thing you can do is begin to replace the negative behaviour and thoughts with more appropriate ones i.e., congruous with your morals and values.
By so doing, you reaffirm to yourself that you can handle situations in the way you want to. In this way, you will be proud of yourself, which is a huge part of building self-esteem. Your soul will shine because you will be back on the right track of growth.
6. Identify Your Biggest Regrets
It is very hard moving on from the past because you can be overwhelmed by so many regrets. Categorize these things because people often only hold on to a handful of big categories/patterns.
Working on patterns of behaviour is often more helpful than working on individual regrets. Having some categories instead of a long list also helps to deal with your regrets more efficiently. Take your diary and list your biggest regrets now.
Then divide them into categories. For example, you can name them as family, parents, work, children, health, fun time, and spiritual life.
7. Tackle the Pain And Other Negative Emotions
Some regrets require extra work. I call it “hard nuts to crack” because they are covered with the crust of negative emotions. Take a piece of paper and let the pain go as long as you stop feeling it. Do it by writing affirmations:
I, (YOUR NAME) LET … (NEGATIVE EMOTION) GO.
I (YOUR NAME) AM FREEING UP FROM … (NEGATIVE EMOTION)
Write these affirmations daily for e.g. fifteen minutes and shortly your mood will improve, the emotional wounds will soar less and you will be more willing to forgive yourself and others.
You can also calm down your pain by using the mantra:
PEACE - HARMONY - HEALTH
After you have released all your negative emotions and pain, you need to accept that the past happened, and you had done everything in your power to amend past mistakes then.
Therefore, turn the page and accept those events as part of your story.
Remember that they have all contributed to your growth. Be grateful for those experiences so that you will move on and truly forgive yourself.
9. Move Towards Self-Love
Think of yourself as your best friend and speak to yourself with love and kindness. Always remember to put yourself as a priority. It all reaffirms that we believe we are worth it. Choose the best technique for yourself.
For example, some work with a spiritual master, self-therapy through writing affirmations and working with your inner child and regularly cleansing your aura.
10. Forgive and Let Go
Now you are ready to practise self-forgiveness efficiently. Look at the list you have made in Step 7 while letting go of negative emotions.
If you can look at these items without feeling the negative emotion listed there, you have forgiven yourself. But the acid test of your forgiveness will happen when someone criticises you. If you can smile and feel unstrung, congratulations, if you feel stung, come back to Step 7.
Meditation and Self-Forgiveness
While meditating, you connect with God and the beings of Light who love you unconditionally. Instead of self-criticism, you can warp yourself with self-compassion.
Cleanse all negative thoughts under the waterfall and with the Silver Divine Light. Then ask God to recharge you with self-forgiveness. You can even ask for a new book of karma while meditating.
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In a Nutshell
You can forgive yourself for the past and the decisions made during this and the past incarnations. Define your values and release, letting go, of all the negativity from your body and aura. Turn the page and start loving yourself. With lots of love and light,
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