Some time ago I wrote a post about energy vampires. Many readers wanted to know how to cope with the types of these negative beings. Learn how to stop their negative influence.
When Are You Affected
There are five signs stating that you have encountered an energy vampire in your relationships. They can include a romantic relationship, a friendship, or even your family and co-workers. Here are the symptoms
Feeling put down,
Rapid worsening of your mood for no reason,
Wanting to binge on carbohydrates or comfort foods,
Having heavy eyelids, being sleepy,
Feeling anxious, depressed, or negative.
How To Protect from Energy Vampires?
Generally writing, it is important to combat draining people and even cut off them if necessary. The following strategies can help you identify and overcome energetic vampires from an empowered place.
Take a thorough look at the five types of these vampiric beings and learn how you can protect yourself against them. You can often notice the hybrid as someone can have more than one type simultaneously.
1. The Victim Energy Vampires
This kind of vampire grates on you with their “poor me” attitude. In other words, the world is against them which makes them unhappy.
However, they do nothing to change their situation. When you offer them a solution to their problems they say, “Yes, but…”
Eventually, they will make you tired and can infect you with their helplessness. As a friend, you may want to help, but their complaints and moaning overwhelm you.
How to Protect Yourself
Set kind but firm boundaries. Listen briefly to the friend or relative but then remember to say,
“I love you but I can only listen for a few minutes unless you want to discuss solutions.”
If they do not react, limit contact, saying that you are busy and cannot do anything more for them.
The problem may be more serious with a co-worker. Then, sympathize by saying,
“I’ll keep having good thoughts for things to work out.”
Again, watch their reaction and in case of no proactivity, add
“I hope you understand, but I’m on deadline and must return to work.”
You can also use body language that telegraphs, “This is not a good time,” In this case, cross your arms and break eye contact, which will help enforce these healthy limits.
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2. The Narcissistic Energy Vampires
These are the energetic vampires whose motto is “Me first.” Everything has to be about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement and crave admiration.
These energetic vampires are dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for unconditional love. Always remember that they become punishing, withholding, or cold if you do not do things their way.
How to Protect Yourself
First, keep your expectations realistic. Always remember that these are emotionally limited people. Try not to fall in love with one or expect them to be selfless or to love without strings attached.
If you did, then you must swallow the bitter pill of your harvest. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to them.
If you want to successfully communicate with Narcissists, you must show how something will be to their benefit. Although it is better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking if the relationship is unavoidable, e.g., at work, you can try this approach because it works.
3. The Constant Talkers
Gasbags are not interested in your feelings. Unfortunately, this kind of energetic vampire is only concerned with themselves and their words. You may wait for an opening to say a word in edgewise, but it never comes.
Moreover, they might physically move in so close that you are feeling their breath, which is bad very often. Simply you edge backwards, however, they step closer.
How to Protect Yourself
The bad news is that Content Talkers do not notice and respond to nonverbal cues. One of the most effective tools is interrupting these individuals, as tough as that is to do. Just listen for a few minutes, then politely say,
“I hate to interrupt, but I have to ... (e.g., talk to these other people, get to an appointment, go to the bathroom.)”
It has to be something that the Gasbag do not question as unimportant or starts to be insulted. Another option is just to say, straight to the point,
“Keep quiet, you’re driving me crazy!”
In the case of a family member, politely and neutrally say:
“I’d love it if you allowed me some time to talk too, so I can add to the conversation.”
Dealing with Constant Talkers may be challenging, but conditioning is possible, provided that you are thick-skinned, and assertive and will not react to their stings in the case they become angry.
4. The Controllers
They are people who obsessively try to control you and dictate how you are supposed to be and feel. It is only one opinion about everything that matters, theirs. Their control involves invalidating your emotions when they do not fit into their own rule book. They often start sentences with,
“You know what you need?”
Then they proceed to tell you. In this way, you eventually feel dominated, demeaned or put down.
How to Protect Yourself
There is only one secret to success which means: never trying to control a controller. Be healthily assertive, but never ever tell them what to do. You can say,
“I value your advice, but really need to work through this myself.”
Be confident and never play the victim.
5. The Drama Queen Energy Vampires
These individuals have a flair for magnifying small incidents into off-the-chart dramas. I know a woman who was exhausted when she hired a new employee who was always late.
One week he had the flu and “almost died.” Then, when his car was towed, he was moaning again! Unfortunately, each time this employee left her office, the woman felt tired and used.
How to Protect Yourself:
Unfortunately, a drama queen cannot draw energy from equanimity. You need to stay calm and take a few deep breaths. This technique will help you avoid getting caught up in their hysteria. Set kind but firm limits. For example, say.
“You must be here on time to keep your job. I’m sorry for all your mishaps, but work comes first.”
You CAN improve your relationships and increase your energy level. Hence, I suggest taking an inventory of people who give you energy and those that drain you. Then do your best to spend time with loving, nurturing people, and practise setting limits with those who disempower you.
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In A Nutshell
Today you have met the 5 worst types of energetic vampires: the Controller, the Drama Queen, the Narcissist, the Gasbag and the Victim. You are able to cope with each of these types through assertiveness, patience and taking care of your own vibrations. Good luck. With lots of love and light,
Vicky is an experienced holistic writer and coach that inspires, motivates, and encourages everyone to become the best version of themselves - physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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