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Are You the Creator or Destroyer in Your Life? Test Yourself

Life is a constant interplay between creation and destruction. Where are you right now? Test yourself.

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Life is a constant interplay between creation and destruction. We have the power to build and shape our lives, but we also can tear them down.

The question is, which role do you tend to play more often? Are you the creator, the one who brings positivity and growth, or are you the destroyer who sabotages and undermines your own progress?

Today you will not only face the brutal truth but you will find some tips on how to become a better creator. Are you ready?

Take the Test

I will give you three examples to test your current attitude in each case. Later you will learn whether these are the creator's or destoyer's attitudes.


Imagine this situation: you are walking around a luxury hotel. However, the service is bad and the food is tasteless. There is cold water in the bathroom and you cannot call your friends, due to a broken landline.

During dinner, the waiter is not friendly, the service is slow and you got the wrong course.

Add some more examples of inconveniences during your holiday, describing your flight, shopping, staying at the beach or transport by taxi.

How will you react? Bear and grin, crab or find anything positive during this stay?


Let's say that you are an employee. Is everything perfect in your company? How does the boss behave? Are there any breaks? Is lunch served and is it tasty? How can you describe your co-workers and clients?

What about your wages/salary and the opportunity for promotion? How long do you need to commute to work, how long do you wait in a traffic jam?

Again, test how happy you are with your professional life.


How many flaws does your partner have? What are they? How bearable are they? What annoys you the most? Does your partner satisfy your core needs? Does he swear, or call names, is he crude? What about your sex life?

Your family: how do you get on with your parents, siblings and in-laws regularly? How do you describe your family members? Are there any conflicts? Is there anyone who is not on speaking terms?

Friends and acquaintances: are they sincere? Do they play fair? Who is backbiting, gossiping, who is jealous of things that you have?

Your Health

How happy are you with your looks, figure, and fitness? Do you like your eating regime and workouts? Are there any ailments like back or leg pain, or insomnia? What about seeing the doctor, and the dentist and taking medication?

Are You the Creator or the Destroyer?

If you started rambling and even looking for someone to listen to your bellyaching about any health challenges and inconveniences on holidays, at work, in your family or among your friends, beware. You are the worst destroyer of your life.

Why? Because the brutal truth is that you are the creator and this applies to both positive and negative things in your life. By regular crabbing, you create something that will destroy you. And it happens too often nowadays.

Why Does Crabbing Make You a Destroyer?

Crabbing is not the main topic of this article but I need to point out why doing so, you are creating an unhappy life. Know that you are the creator of your life all the time, even if sometimes your mind tells you a different story. Learn more about how to stop grumbling.

It simply happens because your thoughts, words and actions (like meeting people to complain about your life) manifest earlier or later in your life. What will happen then?

You face more challenges and discomfort. The Universe sends you more difficult lessons to learn. And then you have even more reasons to complain.. unless you master conscious creation.

What Will Happen Then?

Your situation will become permanent. The more you crab, the more often you face challenges, inconveniences, and tests that show you 'The time has come to accept your life and create something different'.

But your thought patterns and in turn energetic hooks, and voices in your head will continue the creation of a miserable reality for you. Eventually, the outer world will control you.

The Destroyer Mindset

The scenario described below is the worst case but it starts to form when you crab, play the victim and do not take any action to create a solution to overcome a given challenge.

The destroyer mindset totally infected by negativity is characterized by self-sabotage and negative patterns of thinking. Destroyers often have a fear of failure and a lack of belief in their own abilities.

You may tend to procrastinate, make excuses, or engage in self-destructive behaviours. Destroyers focus on what could go wrong instead of what could go right, and you often find yourself stuck in a cycle of negativity and self-doubt.

Ask yourself:

  • Do you often find yourself making excuses or procrastinating instead of taking action?

  • Do you have a fear of failure that holds you back from pursuing your goals?

  • Are you constantly focusing on the negative aspects of your life?

If these traits resonate with you, don't worry. It's never too late to shift your mindset and become a creator in your life.

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The Creator Mindset

The creator mindset is all about taking ownership of your life and actively working towards your goals. Moreover, you try to find a solution during each challenge, never giving up. Creators have a vision for what they want to achieve and take consistent action to make it a reality.

You embrace challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. Creators are not afraid to step out of their comfort zones and try new things. They believe in their abilities and have confidence in their potential.

Ask yourself:

  • Are you the type of person who sets clear goals and takes action towards achieving them?

  • Do you embrace challenges and see them as opportunities for growth?

Are you willing to step out of your comfort zone to pursue your dreams?

If so, congratulations! You are a creator in your life. Beware though to keep this mindset all the time as we usually have ups and downs.

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The Creator's Path

If you've identified yourself as more of a destroyer than a creator, don't despair. You have the power to change your mindset and start building the life you desire.

Today you will learn the tools offered by self-help and psychology More profound strategies will be described in my next article. Try are some steps you can take to embrace the creator's path:

Set clear goals: Define what you want to achieve, set a deadline, make a plan, and break it into actionable steps. Then take action immediately, working on the first baby step.

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2. Take consistent action: Commit to taking small, consistent steps towards your goals every day. Avoid procrastination.

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Embrace challenges: See challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, rather than obstacles. We come to this planet to face and overcome challenges, otherwise, you would not learn and grow.

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Shift your mindset: Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations and beliefs. This topic is very broad and there are many helpful articles on Awaken Happy Life.

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Surround yourself with positivity: Seek out supportive and like-minded individuals who can uplift and inspire you. Beware of toxic people and energetic vampires.

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Try these pieces of advice. This is your homework for the next week. Evaluate your life in terms of the people who are around you, the quality of thoughts and self-talk you use every day and how well you are prepared for this year (goals and resolutions)>

In a Nutshell

We all have the power to be the creators of our own lives. Whether you've been playing the role of the destroyer or the creator, it's never too late to make a change. By adopting a creator mindset, setting clear goals, and taking consistent action, you can build your desired life. Remember, you have the power to shape your destiny. So, are you ready to step into the role of the creator in your life?



Vicky is an experienced holistic writer and coach who inspires, motivates, and encourages everyone to become the best version of themselves - physically, mentally, and spiritually.


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