Acceptance is one of the hardest lessons to learn. Some say that it is one of the hardest light values. Discover the 7 tips on how to accept things in your everyday life.
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How To Accept Your Life
Firstly, do not panic and do not be overwhelmed. Acceptance is like peeling an onion which has layers. Therefore, do not try to get to the middle instantly before removing all the outer layers.
1. Let Negativity Go
The first layer of an onion is dry, like your old resentments and grudges, worries and grumbling. Hence it is the hardest to start. And this means letting all your negativity go.
It is very hard to accept even a tiny thing without going through this step.
Flooded with negativity, you just feel reluctant to touch any sore part of your life, because accepting your parents after many traumatic arguments can be hard. So let the roots of your unhappiness go.
Letting go needs to be spontaneous. Don’t start from the most painful traumas and the fiercest anger. At first, choose something small and not too intense or painful. But you CAN do it. Later tackle more challenging issues.
Use whichever method you prefer – shouting, kicking or writing – these channels will help to release all the built-up negativity. Other people like visualising how the negativity is being destroyed and disappears. You can also read the affirmations:
I LET NEGATIVITY GO,
I,… (YOUR NEME0 LET X (THE THING YOU WANT TO GET SHOT OF) GO.
I… (YOUR NAME) AM FREE FROM…
What can you let go of? Anger, fear of…. (e.g. being hurt again), resentment to… (name of the person), apathy, guilt, shame and many other things which bring you pain and discomfort.
In the case of spiritual growth, sending all the negativity to the Light can be the most efficient option. Visualise all your negative energy as a black cloud sucked by a purple vacuum cleaner.
2. Forgive Yourself - Accept Your Mistakes
This is a more tenderer layer of our onion to crack. Forgiveness is not forgetting, it is letting go again – this time the willingness to seek revenge to call it quits. You need to be ready to abandon seeking revenge and holding grudges.
But firstly, before you start trying to forgive other people, you need to forgive yourself.
Check my post about self-forgiveness here.
Forgiving yourself is about getting rid of beating up yourself.
You can do it because of the decisions made, the words said, or any actions which have brought about negative consequences and even your negative thoughts. At this stage, you also get shot of anger, guilt directed at yourself, and pain because of something done by yourself.
In short, everything means beating up yourself.
Again, we start by letting go – of all the negative emotions directed at yourself:
I … (YOUR NAME) LET SELF-PITY GO
I… (YOUR NAME) LET BEATING UP GO
You can also release the negativity and then let it go in this way:
I… (YOUR NAME) LIBERATE ME FROM ….. AND LET IT GO NOW
I… (YOUR NAME) LIBERATE ME FROM ….. NOW
I… (YOUR NAME) AM DESTROYING … NOW
I… (YOUR NAME) AM GETTING RID OF… FROM MY LIFE NOW.
If you are kinaesthetic, you can kick or shout saying these statements, imagining the negative energy of this emotion as something which you are destroying.
Now when you got shot of some negative emotions directed at yourself, you can start forgiving yourself.
I… (YOUR NAME) FORGIVE ME ….
I… (YOUR NAME) FORGIVE ME THAT …
You can also forgive yourself for missed opportunities or lack of assertiveness, indecisiveness, and hurting others. It may concern this and your past incarnations.
3. Forgive Your Wrongdoers
This stage is similar to the previous one. So first you need to get rid of negative emotions and pain connected with the wounds you have inflicted.
Again, you can imagine them as a black cloud and by shouting or kicking, throwing (with the white or purple light) – destroying them.
So use the examples of statements above to eliminate negativity connected with your wrongdoers. Getting shot of pain may be the hardest. But…
You can forgive someone despite feeling pain. and don’t be afraid to say it. For example, you can say:
… (NAME OF THE WRONGDOER) I FORGIVE YOU…. DESPITE FEELING ….
4. Accept and Acknowledge the Truth
After letting go of negativity, forgiving yourself and your wrongdoers, and noticing the bright side of your life, you are ready to accept your life.
Sometimes you still might feel discomfort, resentment or other negative emotions. You do not need to like something or someone for every sake. Your peace of mind while thinking of them is more important.
5. Be Grateful
Acceptance is not possible without gratitude. When you start seeing your blessings instead of limits it will be easier to acknowledge your life. You can also try to find the benefits within your limits.
The best way to practise gratitude is to start writing a journal. Mine is over a year old. You do not need to write boring paragraphs – cartoons and artwork are also good. Then you are not only grateful but express yourself and show your talents.
I have written 10 Things You Must Accept In Life to Be Happy where you can find many examples of what to be grateful for. Let me remind some examples:
Your life
Your home
Your helpers
The beauty outside (if you are living in the countryside, near the sea, forest, or mountains)
Your parents (even if they are quirky sometimes)
Your work
Your money
Your car
Your core friends
Your health
You will notice that after forgiving yourself and other people you WILL BE ABLE to think about yourself and the wrongdoers in a peaceful way, even if the negative thoughts can still emerge.
Learn and apply some tools for practising gratitude - the article continues below:
6. Understand Your Life Purpose
If you believe in God (whichever one/ones) you can notice that everything has a purpose in your life and everything teaches you something.
You learn how to live in a society or a relationship, and how to support yourself (not only financially.) And most of these skills are not taught at school, you often learn them by trial and error, sometimes following other people’s advice.
Learn your soul plan and start a happier journey - the article continues below:
7. Live in the Present
To accept your life, you need to live in the present instead of ruminating about the past or worrying about the future.
Notice what is positive about your house, work, boss, friends, parents, and children NOW. And focus on it. If your boss, co-workers, or family are toxic or tough, try to talk to them or cut them off. Always send their energy to the Light.
8. Meditate
Open to the help of the Universe. Connect with beings o all dimensions. See your life from your soul’s perspective and ask him/her for help to accept your life.
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· 8 Cases When Holistic Meditation Is a Must
· How To Transform the World through Meditation
In A Nutshell
Today I have presented you with the steps necessary to accept anything in your life. Just follow these seven steps in the order they are described. They include letting negativity go, self-forgiveness, forgiving others, gratitude, understanding your life purpose and living in the present. With love,
Vicky
About
Vicky is an experienced holistic writer and coach that inspires, motivates, and encourages everyone to become the best version of themselves - physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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