7 Ways How To Handle Changes In Your Life
Changes... We like and hate them at the same time. They surprised and force to take action How to handle them in life? Learn it now.
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Are Changes Our Reality Indeed?
Everybody can notice changes by the naked eye. Coronavirus and current lockdown are probably the best examples during these days. In the long run, you can notice that the climate is evolving, people's awareness is rising as well as the vibration of the Earth.
Changes occur in business. More people work from home, some sectors decline and go belly up, e.g the automotive industry, especially in the case of the gasoline-powered cars. More and more electric cars are being introduced and shortly they will become a norm.
People decrease consumption concerning the fashion show, and they stop the rat race in technology and construction. It is not seen everywhere yet bot more and more people notice it. For example, the price of water and food increases and therefore, people save up, buying fewer goods which are not necessary so much.
Bestlife gives 30 examples of changes happening this year. Many of them concern technology and some social behaviour. For example:
- selfie is something normal,
- you take off shoes while boarding a plane,
- gay marriages are a norm,
- TV shows for granted,
- vinyl CDs,
- and many more.
Flora And Fauna
We can also notice that our flora and fauna evolve, some species that are at danger of extinction while others grow in number. During the lockdown, you could notice that some of the animals came closer to people due to lesser pollution and lack of individuals disturbing these animals. For example whales in Venice.
Take a piece of paper and describe your life some years ago. Then write down what changes you can see since them. Thirdly, mark which of these changes you accept and which not.
How To Define Changes
If you have done the exercise described above, there will be some examples of changes in your life. For those who had difficulty in defining changes, here are some clues:
- Notice how your viewpoints on life have evolved - what do you think about ecology? What about vaccination? 5G?
- See how your relationships with friends have evolved - How frequently do you meet? What are the consequences of the lockdown concerning the quality of your relationships? Have you got more of fewer friends? Who are you talking to with the biggest ease?
- What has changed in your surrounding - shops, new streets, parks?
- Are there any changes in your financial situation? Why? What are they?
- How do other people perceive you in the case of being awakened - e.g going to vegetarianism, giving up some foods and stimulants, stopping buying some products, meditation?
- How did your character change in terms of assertiveness, acceptance, understanding others' pathway, dealing with stress?
- What about your health? Did you start exercising more, eating healthier food, practising mindfulness?
Resistance Against Changes
It is not easy to accept changes because of some obvious reasons:
- we are afraid of losing something,
- facing changes involve discomfort,
- fear of helplessness while facing a new reality,
- we are afraid of losing control, the status quo.
The Mechanism Of Resistance
Changes can scare because we do not know what to expect when they happen. Will my life be better after? With shaking hands, you are opening another door of the new life chapter, having thousand of doubts and fears. Is it the change for better or worse?
Then you usually withdraw your hand, preferring the old, maybe not the best but well-known reality than to start something new. And it is okay as making sudden changes, which are dangerous to your health and life, would be unwise.
We have got inborn urge to defend against everything that is unknown but which we have to handle. And only this mechanism causes that changes are seen as not necessarily positive, despite the fact that they are beneficial for you in the long run. What to do then?
Tame your changes to handle them. Each of them is a great opportunity for growth. if you make good decisions and expect good things, there will definitely be some uncomfortable situations, as blessings in disguise but which had been created by your subconscious mind in the past.
Tame the Universal Laws
There are some universal laws that work during each change, whether we handle it or not. Let me remind you some of them:
The Law Of Change
Nothing is constant... except change. This law states that everything is in the process of becoming something else. Change happens everywhere and with everyone and happens constantly.
This universal law states that for every effect there is a definite cause, likewise for every cause, there is a definite effect. Your thoughts, behaviours, and actions create specific effects that manifest and create your life. Change your thoughts, words and actions, and you change your life
The Law Of Attraction
This universal law states that you have the ability to attract everything you focus on into your life. It uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually. Hence it is so important to put the negative thoughts to the bin.
As you can see, if you decide to change something deliberately, for example, start a new habit or practice (let' say positive thinking), then your life will change for better dramatically.
How To Handle Changes In Life
Now I will describe you seven steps that will help you to handle any change in your life.
1. Accept Changes In Your Life
Look at your feelings while facing change. Accept it, regardless of discomfort. Then let it go. This step is a must on the way of handling changes in your life. Work on this feeling, using e.g. automatic writing or changing your beliefs. Feel this emotion with all yourself. How? Tell your friends about your concerns but do not overload them. You can also contact a counsellor, a psychologist or a spiritual teacher.
Accept that you have the full right to end a relationship, e.g. by divorce, to change your job, start a new career and do many other things other people might consider inappropriate, especially in your family or around co-workers.
2. Take the Change For Granted
Understand that change is an indispensable part of your life. As I wrote above, there are universal laws which people do not object. They just are and work, even if you negate them. And one of them clearly states that change is inevitable.
Learn to see your transformations as something positive, as an opportunity for creating something great in the long run. Take a piece of paper and write down three major changes that took place in the past. What positive consequences have they brought later?
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3. Change Your Perspective
It is typical and understandable that you may feel overwhelmed with the changes that happen in your life. Never let negative thoughts overtake your mind. What can you do? Change context.
Ask yourself What am I worrying about? What is the worst scenario that might happen? How can I turn the things around? And then think of the steps to take in order to cope with the challenges. There is little probability that this scenario will happen at all, so then focus on more positive outcomes
4. Take Action
Do your best to make the change as painless as possible. Tame it, stop being afraid. It means doing everything to lessen the transformation in your eyes.
What can you do? Practise yoga. Fear and anxiety mean problems with your chakras, especially the root one. Take some yoga classes and balance your chakras. You can also meditate and have a relaxing spa bath in the sea salt.
5. Become Busy With Something Else
Usually, changes in your life do not concern everything and even in the case of major ones you still have other goals to focus on. Life is constantly on the move and there is no time for rumination or worry. Think of the time you were busy. nothing else mattered apart from the task you were working on then. A busy person does not contemplate millions of scenarios in his/her head but goes with a flow.
Look at your goals for this year, month, week. Is there anything you could do without thinking about the change? If you cannot find a goal which is engaging enough, think about how to help other people and become busy with it.
It does not only concern your problems and feelings. Ask other people about their opinion about your situation. They might give you some tips or even direct you to some helpful people. Make the most of it.
How can you talk to people about your challenging changes? Unload to your friends, write something on a forum. You can also go to some institutions for advice (e.g. a lawyer in the case of divorce, citizens advise bureau if your landlord is selling your apartment).
7. Create Better World
Remember to create a better world. Focus your energy on attracting positivity not only to your life but also the environment. Think now what you can do for your family, friends, for the society and the whole world?
How can you do it? Adopt an animal or start working in a shelter. Help those in need, sharing with your resources (not only money). Meditate with the intention of helping others. You choose.
Remember that the freedom of choice is the biggest asset in your life. You choose how to handle life changes. Will they be very painful or will you be able to leessen the pain? Will you be busy with other things and create more positivity despite the challenging change or will your mind become infected by worry or fear? It is up to you.
7 + 1 Meditate
When you connect to the Source and Higher Beings, you can obtaintheir help and learn how to accept changes in your life. Also, cleansingnegativity under the waterfall or with White Divine Light stops all energyleaks and cuts negative beings’ cords attached to your aura. During meditationyou can also create a positive outcome of the changes ahead and ask the HigherBeings for advice. At the end ofmeditation, while charging with the energy of 4 Forces of nature on the beach,you gain full level of any kind, not only spiritual, energy.
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In a Nutshell
Today you have learnt how to handle changes in life. There are seven efficient ways to do it: accept changes, take them for granted, change your perspective, take action, become busy about other goals, discuss shits in your life. Good luck.